tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post1906846669716974182..comments2023-10-26T14:28:48.126-04:00Comments on Life More Simply: The Great SAHM vs. WOHM DebateLifeMoreSimplyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13740159198016197628noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-2689550794042874022010-09-21T07:09:25.389-04:002010-09-21T07:09:25.389-04:00Yes, I agree that if I ever DID write about the &q...Yes, I agree that if I ever DID write about the "moms who don't do anything" issue, it would need to be a separate post...and I don't know if I could ever articulate well enough (I don't imagine anyone wants to read a 1,500 word blog post!) to adequately cover the issue. Like you said, Rebecca, we don't know a mother's heart and it would be an extremely personal poke at some moms. The point of this blog is to help people--not hurt them! I may be able to share my own struggle with balencing "me" time while having small children, though. (Okay, honestly, there's not much "me" time right now! But I do have hope for the future...) :-)LifeMoreSimplyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13740159198016197628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-47080675818610069942010-09-20T14:16:28.572-04:002010-09-20T14:16:28.572-04:00I thought your article was VERY well written and s...I thought your article was VERY well written and strikingly uninflamatory! i'd say post away! (i'm a long time SAHM for what it's worth, having experienced both WOHM and WAHM too but mostly a SAHM) Really, i think its stellar and covers all issues well!<br /><br />Personally though, i think it might be taken wrong if you do address the "moms who don't do anything" issue. While i think it IS a valid issue, really, it strikes directly at the character of the mom in question, which isn't really fair considering 1. being a sahm is so incredibly demanding, that to say "you can't be perfect and cut it, so you SUCK" is both mean spirited and unfair, since<br />2. You never really KNOW the heart and life of another person. really.Rebecca K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16890819248976415947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-75907192638403604272010-09-20T06:56:01.536-04:002010-09-20T06:56:01.536-04:00Opening a new can of worms.....I read blogs and ma...Opening a new can of worms.....I read blogs and many mention thatt their child is playing a video game so they can spend their time on the computer. Unfortunately, this is not ideal for the child and again - what is the point of staying home?!?! This is exactly why I stopped my blog...it took up too much time. Don't get me wrong...I loved it and really liked to get things in my mailbox, but not at the cost of Tate time.<br />Back to your original piece...very well written!! I think you have covered all sides and I don't feel it offensive at all.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01611793050138966235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-82827475864160788232010-09-19T18:17:33.285-04:002010-09-19T18:17:33.285-04:00I think it should be a seperate post. I've be...I think it should be a seperate post. I've been thinking about writing about it on my blog so I can give it the breadth it needs.<br /><br />I have the same issue with homeschoolers. I am thrilled that I have the opportunity to homeschool my children, at least in the younger years. But I have seen so many homeschoolers who go on and on about how great they are, but you know they are doing everything BUT school at home. It's the same, sadly, with some SAHM's. Instead of giving their children the time, stimulation and interaction that young children need, they are too busy doing everything BUT being home with their children. Just because you are in the same room or building as your child does NOT mean you are doing them any good. Not that there isn't room for all the "good" activities--moms need time out and some hobbies too. But when those "good" activities and hobbies, and especially television and internet, are all you do, I really wonder if the mom is home because she wants to teach and guide her children herself, or because she doesn't want the hassle of juggling a career and a family.smoore2213https://www.blogger.com/profile/11086610379889454765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-17459788910836124472010-09-19T17:55:15.293-04:002010-09-19T17:55:15.293-04:00Sara, you brought up an interesting quandary regar...Sara, you brought up an interesting quandary regarding SAHM's who spend their time doing things having nothing to do with their children, homes, or earning money! This in itself could be an entire post, and I'm not sure I'm bold enough to tackle the subject. :-) What does everyone think? Write about it, or not?LifeMoreSimplyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13740159198016197628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2590679856739734993.post-87137892456149348602010-09-19T17:24:48.956-04:002010-09-19T17:24:48.956-04:00Some women want to be at home full time, some don&...Some women want to be at home full time, some don't. I read an article recently where it said that the majority of women work part time after they become mothers. I tried doing some of my work at home, I never got anything done. For me the best thing is to do that sort of work in my office, whether the baby comes with me to work or not. I love my on-the-road days, because I finally get a chance to catch up on reading and thank you notes and other things. My days at home are spent fully with the baby, interacting and playing. I don't do errands usually, I'm not worried about cleaning unless he's napping, it can be constant one on one attention.<br />Of course, it also helps to have a husband who not only makes a great living, but who helps around the house a great deal, meaning that not only can I limit my work hours to about 30 a week but also have my days off free to focus on the baby. It's the best of both worlds for our family.<br /><br />But I know some women who love being stay at home moms, and I think that's exactly what they should do. And I know some moms who work fifty hours a week, and love it, and it works great for their family--so I think that is what they should do. It's such a mistake to judge another family when what works best for us may not work for them.<br /><br />But what your article didn't touch on, and I can't stand, is the stay at home moms who are really anything but. The ones who aren't really interacting with their children, but putting them in front of the television, or letting them play constantly on their own, or are so busy going to moms groups and other things that they have very little one on one time with their children. Frankly, those kids would be far better off in a high quality day care, and study after study has said the same thing.<br /><br />Amother thing is that being a work out of the home mom is lonely, at least in our area. Momss groups, which there aren't any around(MOPS groups are too far away, I won't drive twenty miles for something like that) are during the day, as is storytime, mommy and me classes, swim classes, etc. are all during the day in our area. You don't really make friends at work, especially when you're the boss! And I have yet to meet any other moms of small children at work, either, so I'm left not meeting any. But the important things, that my son is happy, healthy, and developmentally on target, are met, so that is all that matters.smoore2213https://www.blogger.com/profile/11086610379889454765noreply@blogger.com